Adult Dating

Adult dating: you've decided to join one of our online dating sites and need to write a personal profile; but just how do you write great swingers ads that will attract the kind of people you'd like to meet?

Writing your swingers ads is an important - possibly the most important - stage of online adult dating. Do it right and you'll greatly enhance your chances of finding like-minded partners. Do it wrong and you could be waiting some time before you find yourself getting ready for that long-awaited date.

If you've never before put together a swingers ad, it isn't as daunting a task as it might first seem. The best swingers ads provide a snappy, memorable profile that tells the reader just enough to whet their interest. People don't want to read your life history, they want to find someone who's interesting, honest (let's face it, the bare truth is going to be exposed when the clothes come off) and appreciates that adult dating is all about mutual fun and pleasure.

So how do you write great swingers ads to ensure success in adult dating? If you follow these guidelines you shouldn't have any problem standing out from the crowd.

A Photo is Worth a Thousand Words

Firstly, you must have a photo in your profile. Research shows that a good photo increases your chances of success by eight times.

Notice that I said 'good photo'. Your photo should be a clear, head and shoulder style shot that's no more than a year old.

You can upload more than one photo so, if you have any that say something about who you are, use those to give people looking at your profile an idea of the kind of person you are. For example, if you're into sex in the great outdoors, a couple of photos of you in the countryside will suit well. One photo could be of anybody; but several of the same person in different locations can say a lot more than several hundred words.

One thing you shouldn't do is post a photo of you with an ex-partner or, in fact, anybody of the opposite sex unless you are into adult dating as a couple.

Be an Attention Grabber

The heading of your profile is the opportunity to grab people's attention.

Spend some time thinking about what to write. Something like "Man looking for female companion" is likely to drown in a huge ocean of similar headings, whereas "Robin Hood Looking For His Maid Marion" will probably spark intrigue and have women clicking on your profile to find out why you consider yourself to be Robin Hood and whether she might be your Maid Marion.

Headings that say something about who you are will work well, too. "Firefighter wants to rescue Cinderella" tells others what your job is and that you're a protective kind of guy.

Women and couples can obviously use the same approach.

Show, Don't Tell

Moving onto the text for your profile, remember the rule that many writers swear by: "show, don't tell".

The same should apply to your profile. Think about the difference between "I've got a GSH and love dining out at Japanese restaurants" and "Ever tried sushi? Why not join me for some slippery fish and see who makes a mess first?"

Maybe these aren't great examples but you get the picture, don't you? The first one's downright boring, whereas the second brings the person to life: they like Japanese food and obviously don't take themselves too seriously.

Try to give your visitors a real sense of who you are. Keep the tone friendly and informal by writing as you'd speak, but try to make sure your spelling and punctuation is correct. There's nothing worse than trying to make sense of a profile that's one huge chunk of text with no full stops or commas. Most readers will give up after the first line.

Similarly, DON'T WRITE IN CAPITALS. It won't make you stand out, it'll just make your profile difficult to read and, what's worse, capitals are considered the equivalent of shouting on the net.

Always Be Honest

One of our first points, but it's worth finishing with: always be honest.

There's no point in trying to hide the fact that you're overweight, balding, have bad teeth or only one leg. You can fool as many people as you like online, but if you ever intend to meet them, sooner or later they're going to know the truth. It's better to be honest from the word go.

Maybe you won't get so many people contacting you as you would if you were an Adonis or Miss World lookalike, but those who do contact you will be contacting you for who you are, not who they think you are.

Good writing and good luck!

Sadie
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